Your best bet is to be transparent about the fact that you’re new to this, which will filter for women who are okay with that. Longer answer: That said, there’s a certain amount of difficulty associated with dating someone who’s just starting to explore their queer and/or poly side. She remembers relaxing in gay bars most of the night, dancing and socializing and even kissing in a corner, while knowing she’d probably be beaten up when she left the bar and walked to her car.

However, several differences were noted when data were analyzed by sexual minority subgroups and gender.Another older lesbian told me passionately, “The young queers these days think our lesbian life in the 60s and 70s was conservative and backward.

But it’s also true that for many older lesbians, the desire to have more of what matters most in life — emotional connection, meaning, intimacy, affection, and, yes, sensuality and sex — is still as present at 80 as it ever was. I don't think you mean it this way, but I read it and think "oh, this person would want me to make up for the emotional shortcomings of the man in her life" and that's a dynamic that's a lot less attractive to many queer women in their forties who, frankly, are tired of making up for the emotional shortcomings of many of the straight men in our own lives, and aren't looking to take that work on for someone else. In another exercise, I invite participants to get in contact with their radiant infant self, still alive inside them, and their wisest, most resourced ancient self. For other older lesbians, our wisest self feels ageless and timeless, perhaps even genderless, or beyond gender. Middle and older LGBQ people did not differ in general health, but each had worse general health compared with younger LGBQ people.Yet many of those same older lesbians have no trouble seeing the beauty, vitality and, yes, sexiness of the other women in their 60s, 70s and 80s who attend Conscious Girlfriend Academy classes and gatherings. Her words inspired the name of a new Conscious Girlfriend Academy class: Coming Out and Coming Home. Some women identify with the word crone — reclaiming that slur used against old women, and imbuing it with its rightful power. Bisexual people were more likely to report drug abuse and have less happiness, social well-being, and life satisfaction compared with gay and lesbian people. There were few differences across racial/ethnic groups, however, Black LGBQ adults reported less happiness, less social well-being, and less life satisfaction than White LGBQ people.

In the video, Niki and Kelsie, a young lesbian couple who've been together for three years, ask older lesbian couple Robin and Madonna who've been together for 12. Many old lesbians (some of whom are reclaiming the term, “old,” while others prefer the softer-sounding “older”) know ourselves better than ever before. If you're honest about your experience and what your expectations are for a relationship, then you should be fine. As we age, we have more skills with which to navigate our emotional landscapes, and more perspective and wisdom, too. My additional unsolicited advice is to remember that you may find the relationship with your boyfriend gets strengthened or completely falls apart.Perhaps it’s a little different but I truly am attracted to older women but I’m not sure if an older woman would want to date a younger woman or even a poly woman?

Niki and Kelsie, who say they're the only women either one of them have dated and both recently came out at the same time, also asked Robin and Madonna for advice for younger gay couples. Like maybe she has a boyfriend or other partners, travels a lot, or prefers a fair bit of independence? After one such exercise in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, a participant exclaimed, “I get it now!But studies, including our own, show that, despite social changes, young LGBQ people continue to experience stressful experiences related to their sexual minority status.